A married woman sought my counsel recently. She had a three months baby she’s breast feeding and discovered she is pregnant again, her pregnancy was about a week old, her husband wanted her to “flush” it, and she wanted to know if that was abortion. Of course it is abortion; I told her so and advised her on what to do with the pregnancy.
It’s not only way ward singles who get pregnant by mistake, legally married couples are often knocked out of their plans when an unplanned, unwanted and unneeded pregnancy shows up despite family planning and precautions! What should they do, abort it? NAY!
It can be devastating to take in when you are in the midst of deep financial crisis! I mean, you can barely eat two meals a day, your rent is due, bills are piling high, your children were sent home from school for school fees, you already have about 3, 4 or 5 kids then little junior shows up, to do what? How on earth do you want to handle it? Who will you talk to? Who will understand you? Everyone will just ridicule you and call you a shameless, stupid woman who does not know how to say no to sex and plan her family, right? Wrong!
Never abort that pregnancy! Great children often appear UNPLANNED! If you abort that pregnancy you may be aborting your miracle or deliverer! When God wants to bless us, He sometimes come unplanned, unannounced! When He wants to bring great generals to the world, He confounds our wisdom, ignore all known family planning method and ensure that great man or woman comes through the womb of a great woman! Some babies are so stubborn! No matter which type of abortion you do, they will refuse to be aborted! A woman confessed she tried all manner of abortions, non succeeded! She even tried D&C, massive blood came out yet the baby was not in the blood, he was delivered full term and complete! No part of his body was missing!
Do not abort your blessing! Pastor Adeboye was a big “mistake”! His mother was done with child rearing when he showed up. They were living in abject poverty, yet in God’s own time, He used him to wipe the shame and poverty in his family line forever! If she had aborted him, she would have aborted her saviour!
Pastor Funke Felix Adejumo said her last child was a terrible “mistake” she was done having children when she showed up. She said she was really depressed!
They were living in poverty and another child was not what she wanted in a million years! It was after she had that child things turned around for them.
Today, she is a successful and wealthy preacher in her own right! The coming of that child turned things around for them. Her husband later wrote a beautiful letter to the girl: “…you were the one we were waiting for before we all took off to greatness…” Never abort your miracle! Do not abort your deliverer! Do not abort your saviour! Whether single or married, don’t abort that pregnancy, God has a divine plan for him/her or they won’t come through you, keep the pregnancy, keep your conscience, keep your destiny!
You may be wandering, how then will you survive? Pray to God my dear, ask Him for help! Pray for wisdom, pray for grace, pray for strength, if you ask him earnestly and honestly, he will surely help out! Miracles await you when you trust Him! You may suddenly start experiencing favour, help, assistance and blessings from quarters you never imagined! My God is an ever present help in time of need!
As a single lady, brace up! Yes, people will mock you, yes, they will ridicule you, yes, the shame may overwhelm you but if you will give your heart wholly to Jesus, living a holy life and committing all your plans to Him, He will not only help you out when no help seems to be forth coming, He will give you peace, joy and wisdom that can only come from Him, help you raise that child and give you a great husband in future! Yes, a great man, who will not use your past against you, but loves you completely and accept you the way you are without asking for pre-marital sex awaits you in future if you fully trust God, obey His word and serve him with all your heart.
Nevertheless, married couples should practically and realistically plan their family. Please, considering the present economy, plan within your income. You can visit the family planning clinic to know which method suits you. God won’t be happy if you are carelessly dropping children every year expecting him to clean all the mess.
This article is talking about couples who planned realistically yet for reasons beyond imagination, the family planning method failed! If the family planning method you are using keep failing, wisdom demands you change it so you do not keep making yearly mistakes!
Singles have no single business with sex! If you are not ready to be a father, keep your penis in your trousers, zip up! If you are not ready to be a mother and face the shame of unwanted pregnancy, lock your private part and keep your breasts out of sight! You kiss, caress and romance to your own peril!
These acts lead to pre-marital sex. The end result is not something you want your dad, mum or Pastor know about so lady, zip up before that guy destroys your testimony and damage your life! He won’t be there when you start suffering! Majority of them deny ever knowing the lady! You are left alone to bear the shame and pain of unwanted pregnancy, you will be the one to lose at the end! So use your brain and say NO before he destroys you! May the good Lord grant everyone understanding! God bless you, cheers!