You see, to keep your virginity, chastity and purity, you need to focus on the pain and pleasure of sex not just the pain! Focusing on the pain will help you take to your heels when you are tempted, focusing on the pleasure will give you reasons to wait for marriage -this is balance!
From the women I can counsel who have sexual dysfunction or psycho-sexual problems, I discover that they focused so much on the pain, ran away from pre- marital sex (which is good), married as virgins but have serious problems enjoying sex! 90% if the women I counsel who have serious sexual problems married as virgins!
You must do the two! You must let it sink in your head that pre-marital sex will destroy your life! It will destroy your self esteem, confidence, spiritual purity and testimony! It will kill the confidence you need to enjoy marriage. It will destroy your trust for your spouse! There is 50% chance of committing adultery in marriage thereby ruining your chances of marital bliss then you are at risk of HIV, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Herpes Simplex, Herpes Zoster, etc! You are at risk of unwanted pregnancies, lose of dream, focus, spiritual power, vision and destiny. You try abortion, you are at risk of having weak/incompetent cervix, cervical cancer, damaged womb, Pelvic Inflammation Disease, etc.
As a man, you are at risk of having low sperm count, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, pre-mature ejaculation and all manner of sexual problems interfering with your sex life in marriage and your chances of impregnating your wife! Keep the pain in your head! That helped Joseph flee! Samson only focused on the pleasure! He lost his anointing, power and destiny to Delilah neat!
Focusing on the pain is not enough, or you enter marriage with paranoia, sexual fears, twisted view of sex that you find it difficult releasing yourself to your husband for sexual enjoyment as a woman and you find it difficult giving your wife sexual pleasure as a man!
Focus on the pleasure in marriage! Know that real pleasure, real orgasm, deep intimacy, the joy that you saves sex for your spouse and the pride that you didn’t defile your body awaits you after marriage. When you have the pleasure in mind, it helps you to patiently wait for sex, overcome temptations and keep your pride and dignity!
Focusing on the two helped me as a single person! When I remember the pain associated with pre-marital sex, I cringed to the point of freezing! It made me hate pre-marital sex with passion! It lost its appeal. When I remember the joy of sexual intimacy with the one I love and cherish, I joyfully waited and was eager to marry and have sex.
I simply enjoy sex in marriage! When women tell me they don’t enjoy sex it keeps me baffled. I wonder whether we are on the same planet. I always look forward to sex, I ask for sex, I desire sex, I eat sex, I pray on sex, I think on sex, sex in marriage simply gives pleasure!
I am a super confident woman! Knowing that my husband always desire me, wants me, needs me, and I’m capable of sending him to the orbit gives me boldness and power! Nothing gives a woman power like the capability to give her husband pleasure! It is a self esteem booster! I fear no devil! My relationship with God is intact and sweetly look forward to spending eternity in
Paradise! Waiting for sex pays! Nothing compares with waiting, nothing!
Wait for sex! Stop masturbating! Stop sleeping around, stop aborting! It will destroy your self esteem, confidence and testimony forever! You stand before your husband ashamed and broken! You lose the opportunity of being celebrated for your virginity forever!
Waiting for the pleasure is worth it. My husband has a great sex life. Having never had sex before with no one to compare me with in the past makes every sexual encounter send shivers down his spine! His genuine love for me makes him bond, merge and give me pleasure over and over again! The chemistry is high, sex is hot and my goodness, marriage is ….I can’t describe it.
Don’t try sex before marriage. You will hate yourself after doing it. SEX IS WORTH WAITING FOR, there is no where you are rushing to. At the end you will be happy, grateful to God you waited and thank your spouse for helping you keep your testimony. God bless you. Cheers!
©Seun Oladele, 2017.