Good day friends, let me take this time to welcome you into a new year, and our publications. It is by Gods mercy that we are not consumed. Sincerely I felt it in my spirit that we need to start on this note this year, that if last year will not be like this year, we need to stop making various flimsy of excuses: My family is poor, My background, connection is everything, no work, school is a scam and so on. ENOUGH!!!
I encourage you to sail on your boat and lets get to work this year. It must be better than last year.
One hindering habit that people struggle against is excuse making. Call it what you will (justification, rationalization), no matter what we call it a lot of times its just an excuse. There are legitimate reasons, but I wonder how many times our reasons for not doing something or for doing something are just masked excuses.
A wise man once said that, It is either you are making excuse or you are making progress you cant make the two at the same.
Then what is EXCUSE?
Simply in a word A defense of some offensive behavior.
And its amazing that lengths of people fell into this habit year in year out. I once read that: it is insanity to keep on doing the same thing the same way and expect a different result. Some people work harder on an excuse than anything else.
Unfortunately, a lot of folks make excuses on different bases. Im too busy to do this. I cant do this because I dont understand it. I will do it later but I have just got too much going on in my life right now… later will be better. I think people can especially deceive themselves with some of the excuses they come up with for not doing what they ought to do.
So why do we make excuses?
1. Four Reasons People Make Excuses.
A. To get out of trouble (BLAME).
If I could just blame something or somebody. Maybe I will blame my parents. Maybe I will blame the weather. Maybe I will blame you. If I can take the blame off myself, and put it on someone else, then maybe I will get out of trouble. People do it all the time. Making excuses for mistakes is not new. In fact, we can trace this undesirable habit all the way back to the Garden of Eden. Adam blames God who gave him the woman who gave him the fruit, the woman blames the serpent , and the only one not making excuses is the serpent (Genesis 3:12).
My excuse for doing something wrong is an attempt to not receive blame, to get out of trouble. A person who makes excuses is trying to shift the blame from himself or herself to something or someone else. We need on the other hand, accepts responsibility for our wrongs, confesses them, and asks for forgiveness.
B. To deny a personal problem (DENY).
Aaron made a couple of excuses in the Bible in order to deny his own part in the gold calf that was built for worship in the wilderness. You remember the story well, how Moses had gone up the mountain to talk with God and while he was gone the people grew impatient and doubtful and they told Aaron to make a god for them. Aaron caves in to the peer pressure and instructs the people what to do so that he can build an idol. When Moses comes down from the mountain, he is irate. He broke the stone tablets, burned the idol, grinded it up in powder and made the sons of Israel drink it. Then he said to Aaron, What did this people do to you, that you have brought such great sin upon them? (Ex. 32:21). In other words, Whats your excuse for this wickedness?
Now notice that Aaron never accepted personal responsibility for what he had built.
Excuse #1: Do not let the anger of my lord burn; you know the people yourself, that they are prone to evil. (Ex. 32:22). In other words, Its not my fault; its the peoples fault.
Excuse #2: I threw it [the gold] into the fire, and out came this calf. (Ex. 32:24).
Two excuses are always worse than one!
The real problem? Aaron had let them get out of control (Ex. 32:25). He was supposed to be their leader, the High Priest of God. And he failed the people as their leader. And rather than accept responsibility for his failure, he denied his sin.
It is easy to blame others and make excuses for evil thoughts and wrong actions. Excuses include: (1) its the other persons fault ; (2) I couldnt help it ; (3) everybodys doing it ; (4) it was just a mistake; (5) nobodys perfect ; (6) you made me do it ; (7) I was pressured into it ; (8) I didnt know it was wrong ; (9) God is tempting me.
All of these excuses are a denial of a personal problem. Its like the adulterous woman of
Proverbs 30:20, She eats and wipes her mouth, and says, I have done no wrong..
C. To get out of responsibility (AVOIDANCE).
There is an example of this in the life of Moses (Ex. 3:11, 4:10). God had spared Moses life as a baby. He trained Moses in the house of Pharaoh. And blessed him with rich blessings in Egypt. With great blessings come great responsibilities. It was time for Moses to use his talents for God now. This was his duty, his obligation, his responsibility.
God said to Moses, Come now, and I will send you to Pharaoh, so that you may bring My people, the sons of Israel, out of Egypt. (Ex. 3:10). But Moses doesnt want all this responsibility so he comes up with one excuse after the next:
Im not able, dont have the talent: (Ex. 3:11).
They wont believe me (Ex. 4:1).
Im not a good speaker (Ex. 4:10).
Someone else can do it (Ex. 4:13).
At this point were told in the text, Then the anger of the Lord burned against Moses. (Exodus 4:14).
Benjamin Franklin once said, He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.
D. To keep from doing what we dont want to do.
Have you ever been asked to do something for someone, to take on a job, and you didnt really want to do it? Surely weve all be asked to do something we didnt want to do.
I think many times when it comes to obeying the Lord we hear excuses from people who just really deep down inside dont want to obey the Lord. Their reasons are excuses.
Jesus told a parable that illustrates our attempt to excuse ourselves from doing God will. The parable is about a man who was giving a big dinner and invited everyone to come But they all alike began to make excuses. (Luke 14:18).
I have bought a piece of land and I need to go out and look at it; please consider me excused. (14:18).
I have bought five yoke of oxen, and I am going to try them out; please consider me excused. (14:19).
I have married a wife, and for that reason I cannot come. (14:20).
These people could have come to the feast, they just didnt want to and thats the point of the parable.
Do you see yourself in of those excuses? Are you making excuses to get out of trouble (BLAME), deny a problem (DENIAL), get out of a responsibility (AVOID), or to keep from doing what you really dont want to do? If so, then lets consider a few things that might persuade us to stop making excuses
2. Four reasons to stop making excuses.
A. Making excuses hinders people from seeing solutions.
You become focused on why you cant instead of how you can. In fact, the habit of making excuses keeps one focused on obstacles.
Its like the 10 of the 12 spies sent into Canaans Land. They began making excuses and all they could think of is why they couldnt conquer the land God promised to them.
The people are strong, the cities are fortified and very largeand we became like grasshoppers in our own sight (Num. 13:28, 33). It is unfortunate that excuses destroy the lives of so many people.
B. Making excuses turns people into victims instead of victors.
Proverbs 22:13 The sluggard says, There is a lion outside; I will be killed in the streets!
Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure. A poor workman always finds fault with his tools.
C. Making excuses reveals a lack of faith.
In Judges 6, Gideon was called a valiant warrior of God and was given the challenge to lead Gods people out of oppressions and defeat against the Midianites. But when he was given his mission, he began making excuses:
Judges 6:15 O Lord, how shall I deliver Israel? Behold, my family is the least in Manasseh, and I am the youngest in my fathers house.
You know, if the Lord says youre a valiant warrior, then you really shouldnt argue with Him. The Scriptures tells us that we are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37). You should have faith and be the warrior he made you to be.
D. God doesnt accept excuses.
One talent man offered excuses (Matt. 25:24-25). The Master rejected his excuses: But his master answered and said to him, You wicked, lazy slave. (Matt. 25:26). This man was just wicked and lazy!
So I know why I make excuses and I know why I should stop making excuses. But I have done it for so long it has become a habit. How can I break this destructive habit and overcome my excuses?
3. Four Ways to Overcome Excuses
A. Dont expect perfect situations before you take action.
Waiting for the perfect or ideal situation is a common hindrance of getting things done. Of course, sometimes there is a better time than others to do certain things, but you cant always sit around waiting for that perfect day. At some point you just got to do things even when its inconvenient. I know some folks say, Good things come to those who wait. And in some cases that is truth, but more times than not those good things are the leftovers from those who hustle and get things done.
The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse.
B. Have faith that you can do all things.
Rather than complain about his circumstances and making excuses, Paul wrote, I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. (Phi 4:13).
Overcoming excuses will help you to start believing in yourself and God instead of doubting yourself and God. By overcoming excuses youll gain confidence as you overcome instead of being overwhelmed.
But when we make excuses and repeat them often enough, they become a belief. The belief then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So have faith like Paul that you can do all things through Him who strengthens you!
C. Realize the potential that God has given you.
We are responsible not for what we have, but for what we could have; not for what we are, but for what we could become. So the next time you feel tempted to make excuses, remember the Spirit within you!
D. Ask God to help you stop making excuses.
Jeremiah 1:4-7 Now the word of the Lord came to me saying, Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations. Then I said, Alas, Lord God! Behold, I do not know how to speak, because I am a youth. [EXCUSE] But the Lord said to me, do not say, I am a youth, because everywhere I send you, you shall go, and all that I command you, you shall speak. [EXCUSE DENIED].
E. Look for solutions instead of problems.
Dont find an excuse, find a way. This will change your mindset from a pessimist to an optimist.
I have a feeling that this is going to be the best year of your life. The best year of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies, no excuses. No one to blame. The gift is yours it is an amazing journey and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins. When you stop making excuses in life and start making progress in life.
What will people think? You know you really dont like to do anything noticeable by others.
I could never live up to such expectations, my childhood was rough, my family is torn, you have got so much on you with your job.
You need an excuse? You dont have to go to the internet to find one, the Adversary has plenty of them. But it will cost you a life of mediocrity, defeat, a life of potential that is never actualized, and it may cost you eternity. Dont make mistake, enough of giving excuses. If you need to get right with the Lord, then do it now, if you need to do anything, NOW is the best time.