YOUR MARRIAGE A MODEL MARRIAGE
I can’t remember how it started. My mom and dad had a serious disagreement. The image of that scene kind of stick to my brain. He didn’t beat her. The argument was hot as both of them waged war with their mouth at each other, throwing up hands, pointing out fingers at each other’s face, voices high enough to attract the attention of our neighbors. The tension between them chokes I and my siblings as we crawled and clung to a corner of the room.
“You don’t respect my family” Hurting husband
“Your families don’t love me” Hurting wife
They kept yelling at the top of their voices. One of them made a way to the door, the other followed and the view became blurring in my head. There was a struggle. The door curtains stepped aside and collapsed on the floor.
The neighbors intervene. Each of them started narrating their part of the story to concerned neighbors.
The World War in the house was arrested followed by grudges which lasted for a few days.
He wouldn’t eat her food. His sister would bring food for him in his matrimonial home.
Mom couldn’t stand it anymore. One day, as aunt stepped into our room with her food delivery for her brother, mom packed her slippers and threw it to the next compound.
A fresh crisis started as she was set to make her leave.
“This is where I put off my slippers” worried aunt Her brother helped her searched. Mom looked the other way.
Long story cut short…She produced her sister-in-law’s slippers. How were they able to resolve the conflict? I can’t remember.
Both of them had no pastor, mentor, no *neutral* elderly person they are accountable to who could speak to them in the face of crisis. Only my dad’s people who are the cause of the conflict.
I forgot to mention that my Dad was a MUSLIM and my Mom a CHRISTIAN (at heart) she sneaks to church.
Dad later followed her to church when there’s a problem Divinity alone could solve.
I tell you *You can’t run godly principles with a spouse that doesn’t know God”
I was told that from an infant I am allergic to quarrel, tension and fight.
Mom said even when they had a minor disagreement; I would shrink my face and start to cry.
They were a happy couple until *in-laws interference* hit their Marriage a bad blow.
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Many years later, after dad’s death, we started a new life as fatherless children.
In our new environment, I studied the marriage of our neighbors.
There was a Couple. They had a fight and my mom with other neighbors rushed into their apartment to rescue the situation.
God really saved my mom on this bad day. The wife lifted a pot of hot water from the stove. She was about turning the water on the husband when my mom stepped in. The man escaped while my mom had a light splash on her leg.
As young as I was, I kept yearning *Where and when would I find A MODEL MARRIAGE* I mean if this is all there’s to marriage, I don’t want to be a part of it.
My last experience, this happened few years before I got married. A couple had a fight. The husband was on a towel. Before I knew what was happening, a serious fight ensued and the wife stripped her husband naked in our pass way.
Oh my God!
All the women ran into their apartments, I couldn’t stand the sight. Thank God for the intervention of a man.
These and more are the kinds of Marriages I saw while growing up, I went into the scriptures.
There’s A MODEL MARRIAGE! God has set up the MODULES!
It is a marriage BUILT ON THE ROCK! JESUS!
A union of Christ’s son and daughter! A marriage runs on GOD’S PRINCIPLES!
The storms will rage yet BUILT on Christ!
There are Godly principles to control the winds.
A MODEL MARRIAGE IS THE UNION OF CHRIST WITH THE CHURCH.
*A Christian marriage is a model marriage which is a reflection of the union between Christ and the church.* Ephesians 5
Your marriage is a reflection of the union between Christ and the church.
This is the type of marriage God has ordained for you.
Singles, your life must be hidden in Christ, lay your foundation well.
Build it well.
Esther Ebunoluwa Omoniyi