Abigail asked Sarah, crying in desperation one day after a church service.
Sarah has ever been a weak Christian. She does not ever believe she can drop some sins permanently. But Abigail was so unlucky, she was a better Christian but her husband backslidden state was affecting her marriage negatively. He comes home late every day, won’t attend church regularly again. Abigail couldn’t understand why. But she noticed that there is no time Daniel won’t fight her when he comes home. He no longer border about her well being. July her daughter is just 4, but Abigail was sad because Daniel won’t drop the family car for her anymore to drop her or pick her from school. Their marriage was just six years. She was always sad in loneliness. Abigail had to discuss this with Sarah: her only close friend.
But Sarah was surprised that she couldn’t do anything about it. She said “but you don’t have to worry about this, all you need do is to make new friends” Abigail exclaimed “how?” Anyhow, just make enough friends to keep your company, that’s all, she said.
She stopped crying and brightened up. She prepared in her heart to do just that.
Two weeks after that, she met a guy on face book. The guy was also in the
same location as her, so it was quite easy to see one another.
Abigail will leave her home after dropping July at school, visiting Festus at his office often. Though he was nice to her unlike her husband she thought, but was not a believer. Festus was married with two kids.
She continued this friendship, not more than three weeks, when Festus advised outing at a hotel to make her feel much more happy, for she will always tell him about her bad experience with her husband.
Eventually, they started visiting the hotel often and sleeping together. Festus will always give her enough money when she is going back home. At night, they exchange nude pictures of one another without the knowledge of their both partners. And she could chat secretly through the night with Festus.
Abigail was not feeling lonely again. She enjoyed her new found relationship so much.
She was later caught in this act one night by her husband. He collected her phone, read all her chats. This exposed her secret affairs. She has been cheating on him. Daniel divorced her.
That was when she realized she gave her problem a wrong solution.
Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. 1 Cor. 15:33
Who are your friends?
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14
For every problem a woman face in her marriage, there is always a solution in the light of the word of God.
Do not seek counsel anyhow. A man cannot give what he does not have. Don’t expect a woman with a bad marriage to give you a good counsel. A blind cannot lead a blind.
Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. Psalms 1:1
But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. Psalms 1:2
And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. Psalms 1:3
If you feel you need counsel, seek counsel from the good people of God.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27:17
What state is your home and marriage? Tell it to God in prayers and seek good counsel. Don’t discuss your husband with friends. Don’t compare your home or husband with any other. Your home is unique. Move closer to God, and He will help you. The bible says: the heart of a king is in the hands of God, and he can turn it wheresoever’s he wishes. God can touch your husband, and change him for good. Any counsel that will lead you into sin is not a good counsel. It will only make your situation worse. It will make you not to find the favour of God.
If you are in any problem at all in your marriage, adultery is not a solution.
Adultery will only make you dishonour yourself. And make your life available tom the enemy. Don’t give chance to the enemy. If you have gone into this as a solution to any problem whatsoever you have. Repent about this, and go to God in prayers. And you will see the grace of God upon your home.
Let us pray: I pray for every woman that is going through any form of negative situation in her relationship and marriage, for divine intervention. Let the light of God fill your home, throwing light on every dark area of your home. Let the chains of darkness on every home be broken in Jesus name. Amen.
Evangelist Abisola Kemi Longe