The word I “LOVE YOU” i quietly understood very well that this is not the first time you are hearing it and it is not even something new to your ear, I know you might have heard it several times and may be from one boy or from any other places.
Have you ever wondered what the person saw most especially from guys before that word came out? I remember sometimes ago, I was just passing by on a street one faithful day, and I met this complete stranger, alas! He said I love you. Ennn, are you an angel or what? and many other sweet words a lady could want to hear. i imagined within myself ennnnn and I laughed myself up within. I couldn’t imagine if this particular person knows what he was saying at all. Several questions to ask him runs through within me, which I just concluded to let go and I just say thank you.
Many of what we called love today is purely lust, because if you check down within the root of the person saying it, what is purely in it’s heart all what he is thinking all about is to see how to take you to bed”, many wolf in sheep clothing.
Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy–it often dissipates when the “real person” surfaces. It’s the stage of wearing rose colored glasses when he or she “can do no wrong.”
However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other.
Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love.
SIGNS OF LUST
You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and body.
You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
You want to leave the person soon after sex.
You are lovers, but not friends.
SIGNS OF LOVE
You want to spend quality time together with the person other than having sex mentality.
You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings, make each other happy.
He or she motivates you to be a better person.
You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
Another challenge of sexual attraction is learning to stay centered and listen to your gut in the early stages of being with someone. This isn’t easy in the midst of hormones surging, but it’s essential to make healthy relationship decisions.
“I’d meet a man. At first he’d be charming, sexy, sweep me off my feet. The electricity between us was amazing. I’d write off the voice in my gut that said ‘you better watch out’ as fear of getting involved. When later the abuse began, I was already hooked.”
Some gut instincts though, are anything but subtle. On a first date, one woman landed in the hospital with an IV, retching from “psychosomatic” abdominal pain. But did that stop her from seeing the guy? No. From these women we gain a real-world lesson: no matter how irresistibly attractive someone appears, close attention to your gut will enable you to see beneath exteriors.
It’s so much nicer to be involved with someone your gut likes. Then you’re not always guarding against a basic suspicion or incompatibility. You must also give yourself permission to listen to your gut when it says, “This person is healthy for you. You are going to make each other happy.” To be happy, take a risk, but also pay attention to the warning signs I presented. This allows you to wisely go for the fulfilling relationships you deserve.